what do you think of when you hear the word single? sad? depressed? lonely? Being single in today’s society is like, living life with no hope, no joy, no future; basically if you’re single, you have an issue! so I’m newly single, and no I’m not sad, depressed, lonely, or whatever misconceptions are associated with being single. But, I was not always like this, I had moments of sadness, and loneliness, but thank GOD for God! After times of prayers and heartfelt communication with Jesus and family members, I came to the realization that I just had to do me. instead of wallowing in misery I used this opportunity to get to know myself and to evaluate the kind of person I was in the relationship. After a breakup, it’s so easy to put the blame on the other person, because we fail to introspect. There are always two sides to a story, use this time to perfect your craft (you!). moving forward,  have you ever heard the saying that drunks and angry people speak the most truth? this is the truth! LISTEN TO EVERY WORD THAT COMES OUT OF YOUR PARTNERS MOUTH! instead of getting upset over their anger rampage, Take Notes! use their negative words as a stepping stone for growth. listen! the sweet things that people tell you about you are nice and all, but it doesn’t really change your life. if you need somebody to tell you the real raw “truth” (I use the word truth very lightly) about yourself ask an enemy or an ex-lover. boy oh boy! the things you will learn about yourself! Lastly, while getting used to this journey of singleness, I want to share with you all the tips that I have acquired along the way. . .

•  Don’t be too single

being single is good once you know that it’s just for a period. You have to take what is yours by faith. While you are single always remember the aim is to get married.

• Don’t be desperate

Being single is not the time to fulfill your sexual desires, use this time to purify your mind, body, and soul before the Lord.

• Pray while you’re prey (Toni Lashaun)

stay in constant communication with God concerning your life, and your future. Don’t just pray for God to bless you with a spouse, pray that God makes you a great woman/man for your spouse.

• live your best life

Do you! (whatever that means for you) enjoy life, go out with friends, spend time with family. Life is a gift, and we must cherish it every single day! whether single, dating or married. We only have but a moment on this earth.

• Be happy for others

Be genuinely happy for people who are getting engaged, married or having babies! DO NOT let jealousy come over you, rebuke it immediately! God can not bless you in this manner, it’s evil and disgusting!

well, folks, that’s all! I pray that God blesses you with all of your hearts desires.

with love

Temilola, HisBeloved